Self-Improvement Dissatisfaction: When Working on Yourself Stops Working

Stop ‘fixing’ yourself and start enjoying becoming.

The root of self-improvement dissatisfaction lies in mistaking growth for a destination rather than the endless adventure of becoming

I’ve encountered many people who sought help to resolve various issues and situations in their lives. The problems we work on are diverse, yet I’ve noticed a recurring theme across many cases.

One common factor among most of the people I’ve worked with is dissatisfaction with their current situation. There’s often a belief that once they resolve a specific issue, they will finally feel happy, content, and relaxed.

This belief is a huge misconception that I emphasize every time I work with someone. The truth is, when we work on ourselves, the moment we overcome a challenge or solve an issue, we simply move forward. We gain new knowledge, improve our behavior, enhance our life situation, and get ready for the next task.

That's the essence of it — personal growth is a lifelong process. This is wonderful because, as souls, we have incarnated into our bodies to experience things that, without our earthly life circumstances, we would not be able to understand or realize.

Therefore, the best thing we can do for ourselves is to be happy and satisfied with what we’ve already achieved while solving our current issues. Enjoy what has already been resolved and know that once we overcome the current challenge, new growth awaits us.

The passage of time isn’t the most important aspect of this process. What truly matters is the journey we undergo and what we learn along the way. Everyone is unique and needs a specific amount of time to overcome, comprehend, or master something. There's no need to rush or feel pressured to get it done right now.

Another thing I’ve observed is that, when comparing people who don’t dive deeply into their lives — those who just go with the flow and don’t focus much on personal growth — and those who actively "work on themselves," the latter group can often harm themselves more. They harm themselves by becoming frustrated that they haven’t unlocked yet another chakra, mastered another aspect of themselves, or achieved another breakthrough.

But what if that’s okay? We have a whole life ahead of us to enjoy working on ourselves, to improve, to discover, and to create beautiful changes along the way.

For those who have “mastered” everything — reaching what’s called Samsara — do you know what happens to them? They no longer exist in the physical body. In other words, it’s hard to find a living person who has mastered all their lessons.

Perfectionism leads to constant dissatisfaction.

So, enjoy the process. Appreciate every moment of your life. Love yourself and nurture a positive mindset about yourself. Everything will fall into place at the right time.